Bola and Jude are newlyweds. They had the time of their lives during their honeymoon at the Bahamas, then they returned to Nigeria to begin the rest of their lives together. After three weeks away from their new home, it was time to unwrap their wedding gifts and set up.
Bola already had dreams of both of them setting up and decorating their home with items from their wedding package. As they unwrapped one gift after another, their excitement was gradually dampened, as many of the gifts they received were either not useful to them or were similar to something they already had in their home. Grateful for the wedding gifts, yet sad that the gifts were not going to serve them, Bola and Jude resolved to spend the first few days after their honeymoon shopping for household items which they could now use in their new house – an activity they could’ve done in a more relaxed setting on their trip abroad, not to talk having to dip into their savings again to do that.
Their wedding gifts, just like it happens with many new couples, will simply be repackaged and given out to all their friends, neighbours, acquaintances – just about anyone – getting married about the same time.
Well, how else will they dispose of expensive, yet useless gifts to them? Against their will, they continue the unconscious gift-recycling cycle that seems to have started at an indefinite point in time and is poised to continue through the ages.
Have you considered that you may be part of that unending cycle? Yes, you! The story of Bola and Jude is commonplace in Nigeria.
Think about it…
How many times have you received gift(s) from someone that you ended up repackaging for someone else, because it was of no value to you?
It happens time and time again. Many times, it is the result of a stereotype. By human nature, people tend to give as gifts those things which they wish they owned. Often times, little consideration is given to the value of the gift in the eyes of its recipient. Gift-givers just think: “This will be a good wedding gift.” Whether it is a need of the newly-wed is rarely put into consideration.
Value is always as perceived by the recipient of a gift or service. Serving ice cold water to a person who had 2 glasses of same prior to meeting with you is of low value to him, even if you drove miles on end to obtain that water. The same is the case when ice cold water is served on a rainy day.
Consider giving some thought to the type of gifts you give out going forward. Go beyond the fact that the gift will cost you some money to accommodate the recipient in your thought process. You can give a gift that will be used and appreciated by the receiver of your gift and it may not even cost you so much, in the end.
Just a little more thought and you will come up with an item that gives you as much joy to give as it gives the recipient to receive it. The gift’s recipient will remember you for a long time, too.
In giving your next gift, consider the following:
- What is my budget?
Have a budget. Know how much you can comfortably spend on a gift at that time. Preferably, make it a range such that you don’t feel boxed in with your gift. So, rather than set out strictly to buy a N25000 gift, think of buying anything within the range of N20,000 – N30,000. That way, you do not miss out on a beautiful gift worth N27,000 because you had a N25,000 budget.
- What type of person is the recipient?
It is a good investment in the process to find out the personality of the recipient. What type of person is she? What will typically appeal to him/her? Is she introspective? Outgoing? Loud? Finicky? The personality of your recipient could help you to judge which of 2 colours of the same item will appeal to your recipient.
- What is the occasion?
The occasion being celebrated, or for which the gift is intended, is also a key deciding factor in giving a gift that will be seen as useful by the recipient. A chandelier set, for example, might be a good one for newly-weds, or those about moving to a newly-built house. However, giving this as a birthday gift to someone who doesn’t own his own house yet may discourage the recipient from installing it and may leave your gift in his store for a long time yet. Let’s face it, your chandelier gift could be broken mistakenly by the person saddled with the responsibility of transporting the gifts, as the celebrant moves around to greet and chat with his guests.
- What’s the recipient’s hobby or profession?
The gift recipient’s hobby, interests or occupation could also guide you in your quest to give a thoughtful gift. What is this person likely to be interested in? Does she collect exclusive mugs, for example? Going all out to get a mug with a unique shape will not only be appreciated, but will give the person an opportunity to show off his latest collection…..and mention you to every guest he shows off his collection to. A writer might be intrigued by a pen, an interior designs professional by an antique or work of art, etc.
Giving gifts should not be a stroll in the pack. It should be something thoughtful and classic. No one rejects something that is classic and thoughtful. Absolute no one.
As Mother Teresa said, “It’s not how much we give but how much love we put into giving.”
If the choice of a thoughtful gift is still a bother, after considering the points discussed above, here are some gift options that you may consider:
With the prevalence of mosquitoes in Nigeria and news about the threat of Zika Virus in Brazil, who wouldn’t appreciate having an easier way to eliminate mosquitoes from the home?
The 26W Taurus Mosquito Indoor Hunter can remove mosquitoes safely from the home. It features a sunction fan, cleaning brush, 2 UV tubes, and a collector container. It covers an aerial space of 800 square meters.
It is totally green and has no chemical agents. It can be used inside and outside. It is water resistant and, of course, quiet.
Women love designer pouches. It enthrals and enraptures them. It makes them standout. Giving a designer pouch gift to a woman in her favourite colour and pattern, makes you come across as thoughtful and considerate.
You can get the Clutch Seduccio Carry Etui by Desigual. It can be used as a pencil case or cosmetic bag, as well. It has a side zipper, compartments on the inside and the colourful pattern mix with the flower and Desigual embroidery adds nice details, as well.
It measures 18 cm in width, with height 8 cm and a depth of 6cm. It makes a perfect gift for a stylish lady.
Give it as gift to that special lady and see the smile ooze out from deep within.
Well, who doesn’t want his/her home to be a replica of heaven on earth? A carefully selected wall décor can create that magic. Giving it as gift will set you apart as thoughtful and intelligent.
High quality wall décor with its brilliant colour reproduction gives a home the special ambience of royalty!
Give this as a gift and you will be giving not just an item, but a forever experience!
Imagine if Bola and Jude had been given any of the items listed above as gifts? Such are not the gifts you repackage as a way to find use for them. Why? They are useful and thoughtful!
For other thoughtful, luxury and wonderful gifts, visit us at Adam and Eve:
Lagos: 8, Isaac John Street, Ikeja GRA, Lagos.
Abuja: 37, Ademola Adetokunbo Crescent, Wuse 2, Abuja.
Or, call us on: +234-1-2912737.
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